A Dose of Pro-Natalism for Mother’s Day: What’s Up with That?

Lately birth rates have been down: 2009 and 2010 birth data indicate that the US birth rate is diving under recession pressure (except for moms 40+), and 2010 Census data indicates that while the population has grown in the past decade, “new” minority kids (Hispanics, Asians, etc) have been born at a rate much higher than white kids, predicting a much browner future for America. Births to blacks are also down (though not as much as to whites).

In the wake of this news, we have two new books out calling for MORE BABIES. Bryan Caplan’s Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent Is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think makes the case that parents overdo it with the intensive parenting – since twin studies show that nurture (apart from good enough provision of the middle class basics) plays a small part in the success and happiness rates experienced by adults. So we could all do less high-stress intensive care giving, which would make parenting more fun.

Caplan then reasons that, if having kids becomes more relaxed and fun, we should have more kids (risking losing the benefit of the relaxed parenting, one might guess, since basics provision actually does involve some effort and expense, which does expand with the number of kids). Because?? Because, long-term, they will give us more grandchildren when we’re old, and contribute more to our care and support. And, by the way, staff the jobs of the future. And, by the way, staff those jobs with white people, given that his audience is people who are having fewer kids. Population/environmental problems? We can solve them easily with a global carbon tax, Caplan reassures readers. No discussion of how to go about getting that global agreement in place.

Like Caplan, Kasey Edwards, in a book out in the UK but not yet in the US, addresses the fact that many people are finding it too hard to have kids, given the tradeoffs in the work world it often involves, and choosing either to have fewer or none. Her story, Thirty Something and the Clock Is Ticking – is set in Australia, where the birth rate is lower than in the US (1.78 TFR, vs 2.06). At 32 Edwards was told by her doctor that her endometriosis was wreaking havoc on her lady parts, and that she’d better act fast if she wanted a family. So she and her beau did that, employing IVF along the way, although kids had not been in their plans at that point. She now has a baby girl. While in the process of conceiving she (already the author of Thirty Something and Over It, a consideration of the disappointments of modern work) spoke with a lot of her fellow travellers, and other people with opinions about parenting (that gives you a pool of just about everybody). Her takeaway: people should start families sooner and find ways to fit kids into their lives in spite of the difficulties.

Since this book is not out here yet, I’ve had to rely on British reviews and Edwards’ website. They suggest that Edwards is interested in the complexity of people’s experience (there’s evidently a lot of consideration of why people might find the job of mothering less than attractive). But the book seems also to skew data on fertility toward the frightening (most people do not have end-game endometriosis at 32). “It’s really hard to get pregnant in your thirties,” says Edwards on Irish TV. But in fact that’s not true for most. Saying that women at 30 have a 22% chance of getting pregnant per month, and that by 35 it’s down to 18% sounds a lot worse than the more big picture data like – 7% of women who try do not get pregnant within one year at 30, 11% at 35, 33% at 40, 50% at 41, and 87% at 45. There is an obvious decline over time, and people need the facts, but it’s not necessary to alarm young women – except that alarm always makes good media fodder.

And could lead to the birth of babies sooner than their mothers would otherwise have thought of doing. Fine enough if they’re happy with that outcome, but there’s no attention paid in these texts to the workplace problems that lead women to hold back on kids nowadays to begin with. Women who start sooner are stuck with lower wages, and a slow down in the trickle up of women into policy making roles in government and business – the lack of which, circularly, creates the problems that women face at work….. And some people seem to think they have an interest in preserving that status quo.

Pronatalism (basically, promoting more births) serves a variety of purposes, which you may variously like or not – but be on the look out in the coming months for texts that claim to be pushing babies on you for your benefit. There may be other logics at work and groups seeking to benefit as well.

On related work/family ground, but from a different direction, I’m looking forward to reading Bossypants, by new later mom Tina Fey, now pregnant at 40 with baby 2, as soon as the semester sunsets.

Happy Mother’s/ Mothers’ Day everybody — moms and non-moms, dads and non-dads, as you like it.
And feel free to circulate copies of Ready: Why Women Are Embracing the New Later Motherhood among your friends and relations if you’ve already got your copy, to balance out the ever-present birth timing conversation.

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3 Responses to A Dose of Pro-Natalism for Mother’s Day: What’s Up with That?

  1. carol williams says:

    enjoyed this elizabeth, thx

  2. Hi Elizabeth,
    I don’t usually comment on reviews of my book because there will always be people who love it, hate it and couldn’t care less about it, and that’s fine. However, I just want to clarify that despite the media focus, I am not in the pro-baby camp and neither is my book 30-Something and The Clock is Ticking. I did my best to write about all aspects of motherhood and while I certainly spoke to many women who waited too long and grieved for not having babies, I also spoke to women who were happy being childfree and also women who actually regretted having children. I do not believe that having children is the right decision for all women. And I’m certainly not advocating having children early. When I personally faced the motherhood question I was struck by how ignorant I was about my own fertility and about what motherhood was really like – what I’d gain, what I’d lose and what I would regret. The premise of my book is that as modern women we should not leave such important decisions to chance and social pressure. We should be just as informed and as active in this decisions as we are about all the decisions in our life such as our education, careers, personal and spiritual development etc.
    Cheers
    Kasey Edwards

  3. elizabeth says:

    Thanks Kasey – I know the media tend to skew stories toward the drastic, and to reduce multi-strand arguments to misrepresentative sound bytes, and I did note that your book seems to look more complexly than many at the dynamics of contemporary women’s lives and decisions around fertility. It was the statements you made in your Irish TV interview however (“it’s really hard to get pregnant in your thirties”), and the statistics you referred to, that in tandem with your title led me to the takeaway that your book echoes Sylvia Hewlett’s in misrepresenting the dangers of infertility to most women in their 30s. It’s difficult to get a balanced message across in a sentence or two, but you might add “for some women” to the beginning of the quote next time, and quote statistics that more fully and clearly represent the actual likelihood of successful pregnancy across the 30s and early 40s, not just data on the chance per month.
    I completely agree that women should be informed about their fertility as they make life shaping decisions – which means both knowing that waiting may lead to infertility, and knowing what the actual incidences of infertility are — for example, that 89% of women are fertile without intervention at 35, and that two thirds of women are at 39. No guarantees where an individual will fall in those proportions, but people need to be able to decide for themselves when to start their families, given the complexities of work and partnering, based on full information.
    I look forward to seeing your full text when it comes out in the US. If you have a chance to read READY, my book on related material, I’d be happy to hear your thoughts.

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